How to Change Your Perception of Yourself

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Mirror, Mirror, On the Wall.”

Mirror, mirror, on the wall…

What is it that you see in the mirror each morning? Do you see the beauty that is within you? Do you see all that you have to offer yourself, others, the world? Believe me, you have plenty to offer.

I see your reflection, you’re unsure and maybe even scared to follow your dreams… to believe that you are truly beautiful, inside and out. However, I ask you to trust me. Trust me when I say that you are beautiful.

You have valuable and helpful things to offer to others. You do them every day. To you they might seem small, but they are big to those watching from the outside. Try looking at yourself as others might see you. See your actions how others would see them.

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Mirror, mirror, on the wall…

How does one change the perception of themselves?

  • First of all, when you look in the mirror, push out all negative thoughts. Anytime a negative thought about yourself enters your mind, cast it aside and replace it with something positive. What physical features do you like about yourself…? Your hair, your smile, your eyes, your body shape, anything at all!
  • Look at all you do for others, your family and friends or even total strangers. You have so much to offer others. Some things you do on a daily basis can be considered valuable and beautiful!
  • Approach the mirror mentally prepared… ready to search for all the beautiful things about yourself. Start with something you already know you like about your appearance. Then let your mind naturally wander to another thing you like about your appearance. Going in with a blank mind ready for positivity will allow you to think of all those things that are good instead of automatically focusing on things that you don’t like so much.
  • Even without the mirror, you can spend a few minutes a day thinking about all you accomplished recently, and all the good works you do on a daily basis. This doesn’t make you conceited. Boosting your self-esteem actually makes you more efficient and productive. You can be more helpful to others if you believe yourself to be just that.
  • Every time you take a peek in the mirror, allow yourself to be proud and happy with your appearance and all you have accomplished outside of what the mirror can tell you. Mirrors don’t tell the whole story, obviously. They can only show you what you can physically see at any one given moment. What about all of those other moments accumulated throughout the day that happen that are positive?

So what do you think of your reflection…? Physical reflection, the reflection of yourself that you see in others, and the reflection in your mind based on your thoughts of yourself. It is a process in itself to change these thought processes to be more positive and not put yourself down every time you think of it. It takes hard work and consistent practice, but you are very much capable of that!

So often we think of ourselves as failures just because we don’t accomplish everything we set out to accomplish or everything we “need” to do in a day. We are so much more than that! We need to focus on all of the things we do accomplish, all we do for ourselves and others that is good.

Tell me a bit about you and what you want to accomplish this week. Are you going to be kinder to yourself if you don’t accomplish everything? Are you going to try to alter your mental reflection of yourself?

~Bonnie~

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If We Were Sitting in a Coffee Shop…

If we were sitting in a coffee shop, sipping coffee together… I would tell you what has been on my mind lately. Besides all of the Be the Best You events coming up, such as the BTBY Friends for Healthy Living weight loss support group meeting tonight and the Be the Best You: The Party on Facebook on Wednesday night, what has been on my mind recently is thankfulness. With Thanksgiving just ten days away, many of us have been thinking about what we’re thankful for this month. November is famous for the “30 Days of Thankfulness.”

So if we were sipping coffee together, I would tell you what I am thankful for. I’m thankful for all of you who read my blog. You are the main reason I write it. I am also thankful for my family. Where would I be without them? They have helped shape me into the person I am today. They continually provide support and encouragement, always standing by me. Same could be said for my friends, both in person and online. I wouldn’t have gotten as far as I have if I didn’t have all of these people on my side. I am also very thankful for my cat who helps give me love and comfort when I’m not feeling my best. Not to mention all of the obvious things: a roof over my head, food to eat, clean water to drink, clothes and proper shoes to wear, and phone and internet service. All of these things keep me safe and comfortable, or allow me to do things I need to do.

If we were sipping coffee together, I would start a lively discussion about why being thankful ties into weight loss. Reflecting on all the good and positive aspects of my days has been vital for my mind shift to a more positive person. That positivity helps me when things are tough in my journey. It gives me a reason to continue moving forward. Seeing the positive aspects of my life has also made me realize that there is always a bright side to the negatives as well. I know that when things are hard or I’m feeling really horrible, there is a reason behind it, even if that reason is just that it is helping strengthen and shape me into the person I’m meant to be. Growing mentally and having a positive mindset provides a great basis for my weight loss and persistence to keep it off. A large part of this is simply being thankful for all of my tools, lessons, opportunities, achievements, and every other part of my transformation.

If we were sipping coffee together, I would ask you… What are you thankful for?

~Bonnie~

Hope

Hope, such a simple yet powerful word with so many meanings to different people. It’s so important to have hope in our lives. If we didn’t have any hope for the future, what would we be living in the present for?

When I think of this word, I think of positivity and future. Sometimes I am just plain tired and that plays with my hope a bit but I manage to keep my hope high somehow by reminding myself that what I am feeling in the moment is only temporary… Tomorrow is a new and fresh day, full of possibilities and I can shape it in any way I feel like.

Hope pushes me to move forward. Hope gives me a reason to move forward. Whenever things aren’t going according to plan, I shift focus and remember that if I keep trying hard and doing my best, I will get where I want to go… or somewhere even better! That hope keeps me alive and happy in the moment.

In my opinion, it’s ideal to live in the present while looking to the future at the same time… and hope gives me the chance to practice this daily. I have hope that the future that it holds amazing things for me. I am confident in myself to make things happen, but I also know that wherever life takes me is where I’m meant to be. So I will just keep being me, keep holding onto hope for the future, and stay as positive as I can no matter what life throws at me.

What does the word hope conjure up in your mind? What do you have hope for?

~Bonnie~