How to Set Effective Goals

Goal setting can be one of the best tools at your disposal, but also one of the hardest to accomplish:

Where do you start? How do you know you’re making goals that are right for you? How can you follow through and keep moving forward when the going gets tough?

My first tip: Think about what is realistic for you!

What someone else is doing won’t necessarily work for you. Your goal has to be something you want and something you can realistically do if you push yourself just past your comfort zone. So first, think about what you CAN do and what you can accomplish and then raise the bar just ever so slightly.

My second tip: Make a plan and stick to it as best you can.

Will you be perfect? No. However, setting a plan that will enable you to reach your goal is essential. If you stray or lose motivation, you can use the plan as a reference point to get back on track. Realize that you are just doing your best and you won’t be completely on your game all the time. It also helps in making things seem doable instead of overwhelming. So break down what you need to do in smaller timeframes, such as by weeks or days.

My third tip: Focus on WHY you want to accomplish this goal.

Never lose sight of the reason why you want to pursue this goal, why you are trying so hard to achieve it. If you remind yourself each day of the why, you will find it a lot easier to feel motivated when things get hard.

My fourth tip: Believe in your ability to reach (or even surpass) your goal.

You sow what you reap, as the saying goes. So a simple belief in yourself to make this happen will actually help you make it happen! Sounds pretty straightforward, doesn’t it? Whenever you feel doubt sinking in, say to yourself, “I am strong, I am capable, and I CAN do this!” Trust me, it really does help!

My fifth and final tip: Don’t give up.

While you may need to adjust your goals here and there if you begin to realize they are unrealistic for you right now, you must not give up. Adjust the goal and proceed. Change it entirely if you must, but keep moving forward no matter what! Always having a goal to move forward will help give you structure.

This obviously isn’t the whole picture but will definitely help you get off to a good start with your goals. These are some of the ones I have found to be the most important in setting goals myself.

If you would like more help setting goals that work for you, check out my Goals to Become the Best You $30 e-course here: https://coursecraft.net/courses/z9Qbd. You will get a workbook + guide to lead you through a step-by-step formula for setting and pursuing your goals, and also a community forum for individualized help and guidance from me personally. You will work through it at your own pace, completing it as you go along. If you have a hard time sticking to your goals or get discouraged easily, this is the course for you! For a limited time, there is a 30% off sale by using the code BESTYOU30. This code is only valid until Sunday so grab the e-course at this discounted price before it ends!

Or you could also checkout the workbook + guide by itself here: https://my.digitalgoodsstore.com/product/fcvu8. If you use the same code mentioned above (BESTYOU30), you will receive 30% off of the $15 original price of the workbook + guide!

~Bonnie~

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Announcing Online Weight Loss Support Group First Meeting

On Monday, November 16th from 7-8pm US Central Time, Be the Best You will be having it’s first weight loss support group: BTBY Friends for Healthy Living.

All of November’s meetings will be completely free. We will be having Get Togethers on the following dates and times:

  • Monday, November 16th from 7-8pm Central (as mentioned)
  • Thursday, November 19th from 7-8pm Central
  • Monday, November 23rd from 7-8pm Central
  • Saturday, November 26th from 12-1pm Central
  • Monday, November 30th from 7-8pm Central

(If you live on the West Coast, it will be 2 hours earlier than the time posted. If you live in Mountain Time it will be 1 hour earlier. Finally, if you live on the East Coast, it will be 1 hour later than the time posted.)

You are welcome to attend any or all of those meetings for free. In December we will start low cost, paid monthly memberships so now is your chance to try these meetings out without any financial obligation.

We will be focusing on providing advice, support, and accountability for each other. Some things that are optional include reporting weigh-ins, food/water intake, or exercise. This month we will be figuring out what we all need in terms of accountability and tools, but what won’t change is the advice and support aspect.

Check out the landing page via the link mentioned above as well as here: BTBY Friends for Healthy Living. There is more information there and you can sign up on there now if you’re interested in order to save time later.

(Note: After doing a ton of research on close to ten different sites, I decided to stick to the “course” website that I already use. I set it up so we have one place to post for each meeting. You can leave comments for everyone to see in one place and you can also post pictures there as well.
All other meeting places either didn’t allow the features I needed or they required at least one person to be on video. Since I don’t have the equipment to do that, I opted not to do our weight loss support group meetings that way. However, I hope to have what I need to do so in January. Don’t worry though, you won’t be required to be on video unless you choose to be!)

~Bonnie~

P.S. If you’re interested in my Goals to Become the Best You e-course, visit this link: Goals to Become the Best You. If you’re just interested in my workbook + guide for the course and not ready to shell out the money for the whole course and the course support provided there, you can visit this link instead: Goals to Become the Best You workbook + guide to take a peak at the workbook by itself. Both of these will allow you to work at your own pace to set and pursue your goals. If you have a hard time achieving your goals or get discouraged easily, both are great choices to get you up and running!

Failure: When Life Gives You Lemons, Make Lemonade


One of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is overtaken by temporary defeat.

-Napoleon Hill


Failure

Failure, what a strong word. We all have a fear of failure on some level. Some of us push past it or do our best to overcome it. Then there’s the actual dealing with it part that can be difficult to handle.

The truth is that we will deal with failure on some level, on a regular basis when we are actively living as it is just another part of life. So how do we deal with it? As a tool we can use it to our advantage and as a lesson we can learn from it. We will be better for this new experience. We adjust, changing our method in order to try again. We can even approach it from a new angle altogether. If it’s important to us to succeed, we will do anything we can to make it happen.


Failure is simply an opportunity to begin again. This time, more intelligently.

-Henry Ford


Ford’s words are so accurate. With the knowledge we acquired from our “failure,” we can continue on in a better frame of mind and we also have more chance of success.

We can choose to let failure debilitate us or we can keep trying until we’re successful. It may be true that some times we may genuinely choose to let go of whatever dream or goal we were striving for because it just doesn’t suit us like we thought it did. However, if it means anything to us, we will find a way!


It’s when the discomfort strikes that one realizes a strong mind is the most powerful weapon of all.

-Christie Wellington


We can use this never give up approach in our weight loss and healthy lifestyle journeys as well. It is vital for us not to give up. Sometimes we may need a break but we should never let go of striving for a healthier us. So when we fail, we should view it as something that will actually help propel us forward in our quest.

None of us are afraid to admit it, weight loss is hard and we are afraid we might not succeed! It’s natural to take the hit of failure and want to curl up in a ball and never move again. It’s truly debilitating in its own right. We can’t let those feelings win. Grieve for that plan that just couldn’t work out, but then move on and use that knowledge to help you move forward. Your health is too important to let go of.

~Bonnie~

Mindfulness and Reflection

In our weight loss journeys, we often times put the main focus on our bodies. We really shouldn’t abandon our minds in this quest. Weight loss is truly about aligning our minds with our bodies. Many of us probably have experience with our minds giving up before our bodies do.

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Sometimes weight loss may seem overwhelming and our first instinct is to shy away and maybe even give up. Stand strong and take baby steps!

Here I will tell you why being mindful and taking the time to reflect is important:

Practicing mindfulness allows us to be more aware of ourselves, our surroundings, and our actions. That in turn allows us to adjust as we need to. It is very powerful to be able to tell when our bodies or our minds have had enough, so that we can take a break before we reach a breaking point. When we are able to take a step back and just breathe, we can accomplish so much more. It allows us to think and might even bring some enlightenment. As long as you keep your goals fresh in your mind and your resolve strong, a break can be just what you need.

Reflection is an amazing tool, at regular intervals or even whenever we feel stuck or unsure. Stopping to take the time to reflect on what you have been doing, all you have accomplished, what isn’t working, and what you want to do going forward. This is especially helpful when you have a very specific goal in mind and need to make sure you’re on the right path. That specific goal could be weight loss in general or it could be a race coming up, a certain exercise goal you want to reach, or something to do with your nutrition. Set aside time to reflect at different intervals so that you can adjust if needed or reaffirm that what you’re doing is working for you.

How about you, do you find being mindful and taking time to reflect helps you with your weight loss or other goals?

~Bonnie~

Be the Best You Fitness Challenge

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Hey everyone, I’m starting a challenge with you all… Use the tag: #BTBYfitnesschallenge if you want to participate. You can tag on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.

The challenge is pretty simple:

  1. For the rest of the month we will challenge ourselves to meet our exercise goals. We all have different ones so I’m going to challenge you to create one you can stick with!
  2. Set an exercise goal for yourself (public or private) for how many minutes each day, or whatever your goal is for your exercise.
  3. Use the hashtag above to post to social media.
  4. Tell us whether you met your goal or not, in any shape or form you feel like! You can say exactly what you did such as how many minutes and/or what type of exercise you did. You can also simply say that your goal was met.
  5. You can also post pictures or screenshots of your exercise! Sometimes that makes it more fun! (For example, I might personally do screenshots of my Fitbit stats).

I will also be posting for my own goals as well as checking in on yours on a regular basis to see how everyone’s doing. Have fun with it. Challenge yourself and push to meet your goals.

Feel free to tag my page in your posts as well, but only if you want to. As long as you’re using the hashtag above, we can all see how each other is doing!

Remember that you are strong and powerful, and you can conquer your goals!
My goals: 7500 steps and 30 min exercise minimum each day except for rest days.

~Bonnie~

Goals E-Course to Set You Up for Success

My Goals to Become the Best You e-course is LIVE!

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If you’re having trouble setting goals that help you move forward, or are getting discouraged very easily, this is the course for you! We all have times where something just doesn’t click and a little help and guidance goes a long way!

The course is geared towards weight loss and healthy living goals, but the process can be applied to any type of goal as well: career, home, life, etc.

There is a 16 page workbook + guide inside the course itself that will guide you through a step-by-step process to make and pursue goals in a way that works for you! Not to mention, many separate resources as well! You will also get a community section to post questions and ask for help, which I will be checking on a regular basis to help give you even more personal guidance!

All this for the low introductory price of $30!

Check it out here: Goals to Become the Best You Course.

~Bonnie~

Inside Look at the Goals E-Course

It’s time!

I promised you all a sneak peak for the e-course I have coming up for setting effective goals and the time has come. I have decided to share a bit of the outline with you all:

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Ignore the title in my pic, the official course title is: “Goals to Become the Best You.” This e-course will cover goals, starting with how to make fitting goals for yourself, how to deal with disappointment, how to move on and set new goals, and how to empower yourself to follow through with your goals.

One of the best parts about this course… You get access to each lesson a certain amount of time after you personally enroll in the course, so no playing catch up on all the information. The whole course is designed to serve YOU and help you be your “best you.” I will be there every step of the way, answering questions and guiding you as you go along.

Follow my blog or one of my social media pages (by clicking on the icons to the right) to be the first to hear when this course will debut! Stay tuned for more sneak peaks in the coming days!

I can’t wait to give you all the tools that have helped me set and reach goals myself!

This course includes a 15+ page Goals workbook/guide, additional resources, and a BONUS lesson all for the introductory price of $30!

~Bonnie~

UPDATE: Here it is, the goals e-course is live: Goals to Become the Best You. It is a step-by-step guide with my help and assistance to make and pursue goals in a way that works for you! We have all felt discouraged or unmotivated to meet our goals. The trick is knowing how to go about your goals in a manner that can fuel you to move forward! Included is a 16 page workbook + guide, separate resources, and personal help through the community in the course. All this for the low introductory price of $30!