With Valentine’s Day coming up in less than two weeks, so many of us are thinking of love… So I wanted to mention how important loving yourself is! Whether or not you have a significant other, you need to love yourself. This is definitely easier said than done and I know that from experience. It took me a long time to accept myself as I was and love what makes me, me. However, now that I do, I feel so much more comfortable in my own skin.
Thinking about what you like about yourself at least once a day can seem like a huge task, but is so worth it. It’s like an exercise for your mind and helps you strengthen your view of yourself, a little at a time. Journaling your thoughts might be the easiest way to make more concrete progress because actively writing down what you like about yourself really helps you absorb it better, but you can also just simply take a few minutes each day to reflect on these things. Start or end your day with a few minutes of dedicated time spent appreciating yourself.
Another thing you can do to learn to love yourself is to think kind thoughts as you go about your day. Each time you think something negative or put yourself down, correct yourself gently and replace that with something positive and kind. It takes practice but before you know it, it will become more of a habit! Becoming your own biggest cheerleader will pay off so much in the long run. Practicing positivity and kindness towards yourself will help you cheer yourself on and learn to rely on yourself the most!
First of all, I want you to remember that you are beautiful, and you are worth it.
Here are some questions to ask yourself
(Just do your best to answer each one):
- What are you most proud of? Think of things you have accomplished, whether you had set out to accomplish them or not.
- What do you like most about yourself? List any and all things you like about yourself. Even just one thing about yourself will be better than none!
- List three physical qualities you like about yourself. It could be something as simple as your eye color or something more complex, you decide!
- List three personality traits/characteristics you like about yourself. Again, list things that are simple if it helps. Anything you feel comfortable listing is the right answer. Just make sure you list all three!
- List three skills that you are proud to have. You have many skills, whether you can see that or not. Now is your chance to really think about what skills you have that are valuable to yourself or others.
- List three experiences or lessons learned that you feel have shaped you into the person you are today, in a positive way. We all have many experiences like this. It can be hard to see the positive that comes from them sometimes but they are there!
- What are three positive things that have happened recently?
- What are three negative things that have happened lately that you can put a positive spin on? Think about what positive things have come from negative happenings.
Also, here are some positive affirmations that might help you go about your day in a more positive and kind manner:
- I am strong and I am capable!
- I know I can do this!
- Just do your best. You don’t have to be perfect and as long as you’re doing your best, or striving to do your best, you will achieve so much!
- I am beautiful and I am worth it.
- I am lovable.
P.S. You can download a worksheet copy of these questions to fill in or print and answer later. Just click this link: Love Yourself as You Are.
This is something I’ve been learning lately. Not only am I seeing it proven left and right, but I’m learning how to implement it more in my life. I don’t want any regrets. I don’t want to look back on my life and wish I had done something, and be upset I didn’t just because I was afraid to.
Now I don’t just jump into everything that interests me, I do quite a bit of thinking still but I know I won’t have any regrets. I have so much more confidence and courage to try things that interest me.
So what do I do?
- Weigh my options against what I want, how much I want it, and any pros and cons.
- Decide if it’s worth any hardships.
- Figure out how to get it done or prepare myself mentally/physically.
- Go out and do it with the motto “just do your best and enjoy the process.”
This doesn’t mean I do this whole thing all the time, but it allows me to live life more while still feeling like I have control, stability, and comfort. It pushes my comfort zones just enough that it’s fun and I get to do something I might not otherwise have, but it doesn’t push them so far that I wish I hadn’t done whatever it was.
Why do I feel this is important? Because we aren’t meant to sit on the sidelines and be without risk. We are supposed to go out and have amazing experiences, to love and be loved by other people, to explore the world, and to admire the world and life itself! The more you live life to its fullest, the more ALIVE you feel!
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In this day and age, it is so important to practice self-love because even if we have loved ones in our lives that truly show how much they love and appreciate us, we still need to have a healthy dose of love for ourselves. Media and negative people are all over the place and can bombard us with critical thoughts. However, we can build a strong defense against these thoughts by being kind to ourselves and building love in our hearts.
Yes, I know it is so much easier to say than to do, but with time and practice you can get there! For me personally, I’m still working on it which makes it that much more important to me to share this with you all. To be honest, some days I can’t stop criticizing myself no matter how many times I correct myself right away. As soon as I have a critical thought about myself, I think “Don’t be so mean to yourself,” and try to replace it with something positive. For example, I chide myself for saying something that felt stupid, and instead say, “You’re human, that’s perfectly understandable and that person isn’t dissecting your words like you are. It was just a normal conversation and you didn’t say anything wrong.”
It’s a process like anything else, but is very worth doing and practicing on a daily basis. You will get to a place where you love yourself as much as others love you, or even more!
So I challenge you… to post or write down THREE things about yourself, your abilities, or your accomplishments that you like! Look back on this list when you’re feeling down or simply need a boost.
Bonus: post or write down one thing you can do each day that will show love for yourself and/or build your self-esteem. Make sure it’s something you can fit into your everyday life and stick with.
I will post in the comments my own response to this challenge, so feel free to read that to get some ideas for your own! Just remember that you are a unique person with a lot to offer, to yourself as well as others. You are indeed strong and powerful!