How to Set Effective Goals

Goal setting can be one of the best tools at your disposal, but also one of the hardest to accomplish:

Where do you start? How do you know you’re making goals that are right for you? How can you follow through and keep moving forward when the going gets tough?

My first tip: Think about what is realistic for you!

What someone else is doing won’t necessarily work for you. Your goal has to be something you want and something you can realistically do if you push yourself just past your comfort zone. So first, think about what you CAN do and what you can accomplish and then raise the bar just ever so slightly.

My second tip: Make a plan and stick to it as best you can.

Will you be perfect? No. However, setting a plan that will enable you to reach your goal is essential. If you stray or lose motivation, you can use the plan as a reference point to get back on track. Realize that you are just doing your best and you won’t be completely on your game all the time. It also helps in making things seem doable instead of overwhelming. So break down what you need to do in smaller timeframes, such as by weeks or days.

My third tip: Focus on WHY you want to accomplish this goal.

Never lose sight of the reason why you want to pursue this goal, why you are trying so hard to achieve it. If you remind yourself each day of the why, you will find it a lot easier to feel motivated when things get hard.

My fourth tip: Believe in your ability to reach (or even surpass) your goal.

You sow what you reap, as the saying goes. So a simple belief in yourself to make this happen will actually help you make it happen! Sounds pretty straightforward, doesn’t it? Whenever you feel doubt sinking in, say to yourself, “I am strong, I am capable, and I CAN do this!” Trust me, it really does help!

My fifth and final tip: Don’t give up.

While you may need to adjust your goals here and there if you begin to realize they are unrealistic for you right now, you must not give up. Adjust the goal and proceed. Change it entirely if you must, but keep moving forward no matter what! Always having a goal to move forward will help give you structure.

This obviously isn’t the whole picture but will definitely help you get off to a good start with your goals. These are some of the ones I have found to be the most important in setting goals myself.

If you would like more help setting goals that work for you, check out my Goals to Become the Best You $30 e-course here: https://coursecraft.net/courses/z9Qbd. You will get a workbook + guide to lead you through a step-by-step formula for setting and pursuing your goals, and also a community forum for individualized help and guidance from me personally. You will work through it at your own pace, completing it as you go along. If you have a hard time sticking to your goals or get discouraged easily, this is the course for you! For a limited time, there is a 30% off sale by using the code BESTYOU30. This code is only valid until Sunday so grab the e-course at this discounted price before it ends!

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~Bonnie~

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Weight Loss May be Hard

Weight loss is hard. I think we can all agree that on some level, or at some point, weight loss is quite difficult. Not only does it take a lot of hard work and determination, but it can also be trying at times. So trying that we may feel like giving up many times in our journeys.

So let me tell you a secret… a secret that this quote states so eloquently:

Your dream of weight loss and a healthier life does not become a reality by magic, or a wish. It takes hard work and discipline, sweat (and sometimes even tears), as well as determination to make it happen.

Don’t let that stop you though, because you have all of those things within you. Sometimes you have to dig deep to find them but they are there. Remember that you are strong and powerful! Your dreams are within your reach if you only put in the work to achieve them! Weight loss may be hard but it’s not impossible and you will always hold the power to make it happen.

You are worth the hard work it takes. You are worth living a life that is healthier and higher quality. Just think of all the things you can do in the future that you aren’t able to now. The opportunities are endless. All you have to do is make healthier living a priority and never give up!

One way to do this is to simply believe in yourself. Believing in yourself is not to be underestimated in your weight loss journey. Believe the power is within you, believe that you will achieve your goals, believe that it’s possible! It will power you forward more than you can possibly understand until you are actually doing it!

If for some reason all of this isn’t within you, or you can’t tap into it at any given moment, a good support system can help boost you up. Whether it be family, friends, a group of some sort, or even online… they can support you through hard times. Your support system can act as a bridge to get you over the hurdles and keep you strong when you’re feeling weak. We all have times of weakness so lean on them when you need to, but also realize that you have what you need within yourself as well.

What do you feel is the hardest part of weight loss? For me personally it has always been the food. I love food. I love exercise and staying active once I start but food will always be my weakness. So that has been the toughest part for me and sometimes continues to be, but I push to overcome it every day and I will not quit. Some of it becomes more habit and natural over time and that is so rewarding!

~Bonnie~

How to Beat the Motivation Slump

Everyone deals with that motivation slump from time to time. I know I personally deal with it at least once a week. It’s those days where nothing sounds appealing and you just can’t get motivated. It is especially tough when your bed is more appealing than going about your day. This type of day can be frustrating beyond words as you know that you have many things to do, and some of them are even desirable, but you can’t get yourself started with any of it.

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Here are some ways I have found to beat that all compelling motivation slump:

  • Take a moment to drink coffee: Use your morning coffee as a chance to wake up and get motivated. Drink it a little slower to enjoy the moment and revive your mind after a night’s slumber. Read something you find motivational while you drink, such as a magazine, part of a book, uplifting news stories or articles, etc.
  • Fake it till you make it: Have you heard of this saying? Sometimes simply going through the motions of the day helps you find motivation to move forward again. Eventually something clicks and you feel better again, rejuvenated even!
  • Do something simple that brings you joy: A way to baby step your way into your day… find something simple and easy to do that also helps you move toward your goals. You can’t find the motivation to workout? Go on Pinterest and look at all the healthy living pins or read some blogs on the specific topic. You can’t find the motivation to work? Make a list of something related to your work that makes you happy.
  • Blog/Journal: Sometimes blogging or journaling helps as well, just working through your thoughts and emotions can help you process whatever has put up a “motivational roadblock” in your mind. Other times it brings to light a spark of interest in doing something you need to do because you thought of something completely new!
  • Listen to upbeat music: Listening to upbeat music, or simply your favorite music, is uplifting and inspirational! Try it sometime when your motivation is down the drain.
  • Go for a walk or exercise: Take a walk outside. The fresh air and sunshine will do you tons of good. All other types of exercise as well can help revitalize your body and mind at the same time.
  • Let loose: Act like a kid again, or simply let yourself be carefree. The release is amazing and can remind you why it’s worthwhile to just take action and live life!
  • Post on social media: The moment you post on social media that you don’t feel like doing something, you either get feedback that helps motivate you… or you feel motivated because you feel relieved, taking the pressure off. Sometimes even finding something positive to post on social media can help ignite a fire within you.

What do you personally do to get yourself motivated on a day where nothing seems appealing? I’m sure we could all use a whole arsenal of ideas to spur us to action on those days!

~Bonnie~

3 Day Quote Challenge

Day 3 of the 3 day quote challenge, nominated by It’s Good to be Crazy Sometimes. Check out her blog, I find it incredibly interesting and enjoyable!

Thank you for the nomination, I am truly honored!

Rules for Three-Day Quote Challenge

Thank the blogger, who nominated you.
Publish 3 quotes on 3 consecutive days in your blog. It can be your own, or from a book, movie or from anyone who inspires you.
Nominate 3 more bloggers to carry on this endeavor.

My 3 quotes today are some I find inspiring when things are tough:

  1. I will not cause pain without allowing something new to be born, says the Lord. -Isaiah 66:9
  2. “The struggle you’re in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow.” -unknown
  3. “In the end, some of your greatest pains become your greatest strengths.” -Quotesforlife101.net

These are the things I try to remind myself when things are hard, that I’m learning a valuable lesson and I will come out stronger than ever, so I hope you find the same value in them.

And for my nominations:

http://www.simpleighorganized.com/

https://stepstomovement.wordpress.com/

https://tlynn95.wordpress.com/

3 Day Quote Challenge

Day 2 of the 3 day quote challenge, nominated by It’s Good to be Crazy Sometimes. Check out her blog, I find it incredibly interesting and enjoyable!

Thank you for the nomination, I am truly honored!

Rules for Three-Day Quote Challenge

Thank the blogger, who nominated you.
Publish 3 quotes on 3 consecutive days in your blog. It can be your own, or from a book, movie or from anyone who inspires you.
Nominate 3 more bloggers to carry on this endeavor.

My 3 quotes today are some I have stumbled upon recently on Pinterest and found motivational:

  1. wake up and be awesome
  2. you haven't quit
  3. awesome and negative Quote by Karen Salmansohn via notsalmon.com

And for my nominations:

http://www.bandedcarolinagirl.wordpress.com

http://www.bulgingbuttons.wordpress.com

http://www.devyncox.wordpress.com

3 Day Quote Challenge

Day 1 of the 3 day quote challenge, nominated by It’s Good to be Crazy Sometimes. Check out her blog, I find it incredibly interesting and enjoyable!

Thank you for the nomination, I am truly honored!

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Rules for Three-Day Quote Challenge

Thank the blogger, who nominated you.
Publish 3 quotes on 3 consecutive days in your blog. It can be your own, or from a book, movie or from anyone who inspires you.
Nominate 3 more bloggers to carry on this endeavor.

My 3 quotes today are ones that have helped me get started and continue with my weight loss journey:

  1. Just do it! (Nike’s catchphrase but so simple that it would be common!)
  2. Keep moving forward!
  3. Just do your best! (Courtesy of me! :))

Yes, super simple quotes but ones that mean so much to me and I hope you find motivational.

And for my nominations:

https://losing4christ.wordpress.com/

https://mommylanesadventures.wordpress.com/

https://allybjones.wordpress.com/

Motivation Monday- The “Buddies” of Motivation

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As we begin our journeys to lose weight and get healthier, we have motivation in abundance. Everything is so new! We feel like we can do it otherwise we wouldn’t have started. Not to mention, our reasons are fresh on our minds… but slowly motivation starts to wane. Why? Why is that?

It is my opinion that determination is the best buddy of motivation. These two concepts are so closely tied together that they feed off of each other. Motivation is our reasons and desire to do what we’re doing, and determination is our strength in that desire. These two together provide that fire within us to move forward when the going gets tough.

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Another aspect that also ties in is willpower, simply us taking the control of our urges as well as what we do, basically practicing self-control. Sometimes this is hard, others it is easy. We have to believe we have the strength in us to put this willpower to use. Weighing our options against our reasons for losing weight and making the best decision for us is the best way to do this. The more you practice self-control, the easier it will be to employ it.

No one said this journey would be easy, but these three components are very important. Motivation can be consistently kept by setting yourself deeply into your purpose and by practicing self-control at every opportunity. It almost sounds like a recipe, doesn’t it? A recipe for success! Keep putting these things to use and simply practicing them each day.

~Bonnie~

Tip Tuesday- Embrace the Freshness

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This week’s tip brought to you by… the beginning of the month of September!

My tip to you today is to embrace the freshness of the new month.

A new month or week brings to us a sense of freshness like no other type of day can. It’s another chance to do what we want or need to do in order to reach our goals. So I say, EMBRACE THE FRESHNESS that this new month has provided!

September is a new (or continuing) opportunity to work hard and put forth our best effort. Take the time in the next few days to write down, or at the very least think about, the things you would like to accomplish in the next 30 days. They may be goals or just things you would like to work on. They could also be health, work, family/home related or whatever you want them to be.

If you write them down, they will be easier to remember and you will be able to reference your list throughout the month to keep it fresh in your mind and to stay focused. I personally like to write mine or post them online somewhere. Making them public helps me stay even more accountable to myself, but it’s not for everyone.

Today I’m taking the time to reflect on my August goals. The two biggest were to reduce my soda consumption from one daily to two max per week, and to stop nibbling food while serving my nephews meals/snacks. I successfully did both and will continue to do what I did from now on. To reduce my soda consumption, I had flavored water in the evenings instead, which I will continue to do until I decide to taper those off as well.

My September goals are to make it to the gym consistently 3+ times a week and to strength train a minimum of 2 times a week. The strength training has always been something I need to work on and I won’t give up. I’m going to do my best each day/week with my gym goal while I build it into a true habit for myself. My hope for this month is that my feet issue will heal enough for my doctor to clear me to start running again.
~Bonnie~

Motivation Monday- Do Your Best

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“Just do your best!” is one of my personal mottos, adopted during a very challenging time. It’s something we should all remind ourselves of as often as we can. Our best is all we can expect of ourselves because no one is perfect. If we are always striving to do our best, then we focus on that and recognize we are a success because of it.

Unfortunately slip ups happen, and they happen to all of us. They’re inevitable… but the good news is that with the mentality to keep doing your best instead of dwelling on what you did “wrong,” you continue to feel motivated with the knowledge that you will always do your best! It really takes the intense pressure off your shoulders which has the added bonus of letting you enjoy each step of your journey.

One thing to remember though is to keep perspective. Your best varies from moment to moment so your best right now might not be your best tonight or tomorrow. It depends a lot on our state of mind, emotions and things going on around us as well as other factors. So remember to do your best to choose each best option as it comes along. When you slip up, learn from it but put it right behind you and make your next decision a good one, one you’ll feel proud of. That first healthy or productive choice after a slip up is so powerful! It fills you with an earned sense of accomplishment and helps you remember that you can indeed do this!

Always remember to focus on doing your best each day, each moment, and it will get you so far!
~Bonnie~

Steady Saturday- Consistency is Key

“Consistency is key”

We’ve all heard this saying at one point or another. It is certainly cliche but oh so true! The more you steadily work at something, the more progress you will make.

Trust me when I say this: stick with it and your hard work will pay off. I’ve seen this proven in my friends, family, and even myself. Don’t give up and you will see results.

Be persistent, be patient, and trust your process. Keep putting in the effort and doing what you feel is best for you and your life. Be honest with yourself each step of the way and adjust as needed, but always keep moving forward.

Remember that you don’t need to be perfect. In fact, no one is perfect. It may seem that way from the outside watching others, but we don’t know the struggles and inner battles that others face day in and day out. Trust your process only. Everyone’s journeys are different and we all progress at our own rates.

If you are consistent, then you will WIN! You will be successful. You may slip up here and there but that’s okay. Consistently building good habits will get you where you want or need to go.

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~Bonnie~